“The most searing indictment of male gynecology is the book by Dr. John M. Smith entitled Women and Doctors (The Atlantic Monthly Press, 1992). After spending nearly twenty-five years in gynecological training and clinical practice, Dr. Smith paints a dismal picture of the woman’s specialist. “Male gynecologists, like all men, go through the kind of ‘attitude setting’ that occurs in the proverbial locker rooms while they are growing into manhood.” Dr. Smith, whose practice was in Colorado Springs, says that “It is common and acceptable among practicing gynecologists to speak about their patients bodies, sexual behavior, or medical problems indiscriminately, in terms that are demeaning and reflect a lack of kindness and respect.” (p. 27) Becoming more explicit, he charges them with eroticizing the medical scene: “It is a rare male who is able to see women day in and day out, examine their bodies, hear details of their sex lives, and not only never have a lascivious thought or abuse that access but always remain clinical…” (p.29) He confesses that “I have had a colleague invite me to do an exam on one of his patients under the false guise of a consultation because ‘she has a body you won’t believe’.” “I have seen a physician walk out of an exam room and tell a hallway full of doctors and nurses about the disease his married patient had contracted as a result of an affair. I have seen more than one gynecologist walk into an operating room where another doctor’s patient was already asleep for surgery, lift up the sheet, admire the patient’s breasts, and continue his conversation without pause.” (p.27) Dr. Smith concludes dramatically: After twenty-four years of medical education and clinical gynecological experience, it is my opinion that males should not be gynecologists. The role properly belongs to women.” (p.29)
after reading this, I’m not even sure that men should be doctors at all
it’s all “accidental hand touch” this and “brief longing gaze” that, where’s my support at for “reaching up and fixing someone’s collar for them” crew??
the intimacy disguised as helpfulness! the lingering contact! the optional subdued “you look nice” as they stand too close!!
expand your pining vocabulary people
“You have something in your hair” *strokes their head*
“Feel how warm my hand is” *cups their cheeks*
“You seem a bit tense” *gives them a message*
“What flavor is your lipstick?” *indirect kiss with their index finger*
alternatively: feel how cold my hands are!! *sticks them directly on the back of love interest’s neck*
Aaaa he’s turning a duller color… I hope he’s alright
So apparently chicken nugget is a spicebush swallowtail and they turn yellow before they pupate.
He was making little silk things everywhere
Bruh this caterpie is going to evolve to metapod today my boy isn’t messing around
update hes entirely yellow now
i made him a tube room
hes crawlin all over the place checking it out
its happening
False alarm he moved a bit This guy
??? caterpie doesnt evolve into kakuna
whats he doing
its happening part 2 For Real This Time
chicken nugget using those advanced tactics balancing my man doesnt do anything halfway
i put on some tunez for him so he can get into the metamorphazone
sorry for keeping you all in suspense but chicken nugget is doing fine and he has a cool hat now
hes been chillin like this for a couple days
hes been in cocoon for 10 days now 🎉🐛🎉
let me know how he’s doing soon
HES BUSTIN OUT
im going to sleep, chicken nugget is snoozin and ill check up on him as soon as i wake up
hope he doesnt party too hard
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💤
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hes gone goth hes in his emoteen stage
CHICKEN NUGGET IS A CHICKEN WING NOW BABY WE HAVE LIFTOFF!!!!!
hes’s in a bigger container than the one in the pic now but im gonna let my home boy find his way in the world after he gets used to his wings a little bit
I have missed this post so much! Let’s all celebrate Chicken Nugget!
do you guys realize that,,,, chicken nugget is one of those butterflies that is perfectly half female and half male?? nugget’s left wing is typical of a female spice bush swallowtail and the right wing is typical of a male
a gender role smashing icon
This was sweet… until someone made this about goddamn gender roles.
It’s not about ‘gender roles’! Bilateral gynandromorphism is a really interesting, uncommon genetic phenomenon seen in a number of animals that have ZW sex chromosomes. They work quite differently from human’s X and Y chromosomes. In some circumstances, it’s possible for an individual to develop with two entirely different sets of genes–in this case, divided in a perfect split down the body. It’s not very well understood, and some scientists consider it a form of chimerism… but it’s really cool and worth talking about! OP had a genetically interesting surprise.
i have a lesbian friend called Maggie who claims to be stupid but has given me some of the most powerful advice ive ever received, information that only a lesbian could deliver
she used to work for a gay club where her job would be to carry around a tray of shots (she’s like pretty short and had one (1) extremely buff arm because of this bc she had to hold the tray real high above her head when going thru crowds) and she found that obviously she’d get tipped better if she dressed sexy, so she’d come to work in just lingerie and bunny ears, and i was like “damn i could never” and i asked her how she had the body confidence to do it
her answer was “oh i don’t i’m just dumb” and honestly? that’s the best piece of advice i’ve ever been given, period.
she told me that a good sport/hobby for depressed lesbians to take up is martial arts, because not only does it give you a reason to get out the house and socialise more, but because it gives you a good way to get more control over your body in more ways than one
not only does it prepare you for a potential time in later your life where you might need to defend yourself against non-consensual touching (be it sexual or otherwise) but it gives you a way to platonically, professionally and most importantly consensually be touched and touched other people in a semi-public, friendly environment, and she told me it’s really important that lesbians do that because we can get so caught up in our heads about being touched & not being touched. it also works as an environment where you can always say “stop” and you know they will - because that’s the point
Maggie is wise beyond her years
i was once discussing the big spoon/little spoon with a friend and she interupted us and gave the most definitive answer i’ve ever heard; the wisest addition to Big Spoon/Little Spoon discourse anybody could have, something i still think about every day.
she said “middle spoon” and for the first time in my life it DAWNED ON ME you could do BOTH at ONCE
anyway hats off to Maggie she’s one of my favourite people in the world
My girlfriend is a “dumb” (actually very wise) lesbian named Maggie and I thought “oh wow what a funny coincidence.” But the more I read the more I realized no, the Maggie in question here is /actually/ my girlfriend (there are only so many lesbian Maggies that used to work as club bunny girls after all). Anyway yes hats off to Maggie. One time when I was mad at myself for something stupid I did she said “well if you’re upset it means that you really care about it, and isn’t it lovely that you have the capacity to care so deeply?” She is wise beyond her years.
What I’m getting from this as a lesbian named maggie… I need to work at a bar or club
If you dare come at me about banning straws, I will throw you into the sun cannon. I’m disabled, I’m crippled, I need disposable plastic straws, and all those pricey ridiculous alternatives aren’t working as well. Plastic straws were invented for the disabled.
Way to shit all over a vital access need because you think straws are worse than corporate greed.
We all care about the turtles, the seals, the oceans, obviously. Notice how the easiest thing to yell about was something that would barely affect anything but appealed heavily to emotional discourse.
The disabled community is huge, and it can be joined by anyone. Most of those As Seen On TV products were invented for us. Society still mocks us and ignores us, and often outright harms us in multiple ways.
Communicate better. Listen better. But stop putting us out in the cold because you are inconvenienced by our simplest needs.
Straws aren’t killing the planet, its animals, or people. They’re a microscopic fraction of an iota of a percentage of the problem. You want to do something? Ban plastic fishing nets. Anything else is just a hollow feel-good gesture at the expense of real living disabled people.
i have an environmental degree and i’ve been saying this since this straw ‘debate’ started: its all a tactic by those in power to distract people’s attention from bigger issues such as fishing waste. don’t fall for it. and don’t be a dick to disabled people who need straws to make their lives easier.
I saw a tweet once that said that “not using straws is the ‘thoughts and prayers’ of plastic pollution” and I think that sums it up pretty well.
